i've decided, now that days are sunnier and the birds are here that i need to start taking more loving care of myself. it was a long, dismal stretch this winter when i felt really horrible about so many things in my life over which i felt i had no control; i remember one sunday afternoon, a sunny one at that, when i had not the energy to simply get dressed, let alone go out and soak up some of that sun; after sitting frozen for a good thirty, forty, sixty minutes, i finally put my head down on my rickety little yellow cafe table and cried. i hated those times (who doesn't?), hated the feeling that a dark, wet, heavy blanket had been draped over me and i had no strengh to shrug it off. but slowly, step by step, day by day, week by month i am seeing a little (maybe more)improvement in my general outlook on life, and even caught myself yesterday morning walking around outside in my pajamas with a spring in my step. this morning i laid out a pretty little breakfast just for me, with orange juice i'd just squeezed, creamy vanilla yogurt from new hampshire, a perfectly ripe avocado on a toasted english muffin. the napkin was vintage butter yellow linen, the spoon a diminutive sterling silver one with my name engraved, a childhood gift from my grandmother we all called mimi (hello carolyn ;)). i sat here in the morning sun at my beloved little robin's egg table and watched the birds as they chased one another about, as they scratched at sunflower seed hulls and lifted their throats and sang, sang, sang. for no reason, it seemed to me, did they sing but for the sun and the feeling that all was pleasant and good. i've been beating myself up for a long, long time - the way i can't keep things organized, the plight of constantly trying to keep my work fresh and new, my terminal impatience, the way i let worries and nagging emotions eat me up inside. i'm finally realizing, at this ripe old age of 52, that there are many things i need to just. let. go. i am learning. it is a slow and oft repeated lesson, but i'm learning, yes i am.
“Face your deficiencies and acknowledge them; but do not let them master you. Let them teach you patience, sweetness, insight... When we do the best we can, we never know what miracle is wrought in our life, or in the life of another. ”
—Helen Keller (1880-1968), author, lecturer, activist
most of you know how solitary my own little life has become: the boys have moved on to school and lives of their own, i've moved out to the country where the nearest grocery store is a good ten miles away, where i have no immediate neighbors, where i look out my window and see no houses, hear no traffic noise. it is a delicious life, and i've embraced it mostly with ardor and success; but i also realize that there is a need to reach out for other like-minded souls from time to time, to initiate activities, to encourage "local" (being a relative term) friendships, to get out there and do creative, interesting, stimulating things outside of this house and beyond these five acres from time to time. i find myself becoming quite reclusive, particularly during the winter months when i am content to curl up inside and not branch out beyond the four walls that protect me from the colder elements. that isn't healthy, and i know this, but i still find it difficult to reach out, to invite, to ask, to plan. i seem to be in a growing spell, though, because in the past five days i've had the chance to visit new and old friends, to hang out in not one, not two, but three different artist studios. and it was wonderful.
last friday, the day after ellen left when i was so bereft and blue, i drove to asheville at the gracious invitation of bead and illustration artist extraordinaire, cynthia thornton, of green girl studios, and her beautiful sweetheart of a brother, andrew. they had prepared an absolute feast in my honor, and we sat around the table eating and laughing, sharing and reflecting, for hours and hours. i'm angry at myself for inadvertently leaving my camera in the car up at the street, and left late in the afternoon without a single photograph of her incredible studio, of her sweet little daughter azalea, of what we ate, of anything at all. but thankfully andrew sent me the photograph above, taken just before i left, and i think you can see the depth of this new friendship in our smiles and in our eyes.
the day before yesterday i was invited to drive over towards the nantahala gorge to visit the house and studio of an old acquaintance and now friend, dee dee triplett;
dee dee is quite an accomplished and award winning doll maker, and her beautiful house is filled to the brim with hand crafted dolls, lovely oil paintings that her grandmother created long ago, gorgeous antiques, and spectacular mountain and wood views out every single window. a mutual friend, a sofa king, had been prodding both dee dee and me to make an effort to get together, and she finally called on sunday to invite me out to the house.
dee dee and her husband robert have constructed a gorgeous separate large studio and guest quarters (three bedrooms with twin beds, three baths, a kitchen, a huge deck looking out over mountains) where they plan to hold small artist workshop retreats, beginning hopefully sometime later this year.
i'm thrilled to have such a lovely venue so close to home, and will be letting you know when i'll be teaching there. in fact, i'd love to hear from those of you who are interested; i know i've received countless requests from east coast folks asking me to teach on this side of our little world, and it will be good to have an idea of who wants to come and play.
then, yesterday, i drove back to asheville and had a play day with a very dear friend of mine who goes back a good eight or nine years; kathy van kleeck lived 25 miles from me when we first met, and she reached out to initiate a friendship, based on mutual jewelry making interests, all those years ago.
we once had a ridiculous falling out, as friends so often do, but fortunately the strength of our ties held securely those bonds, and i feel that we are all the closer for it. kathy and her husband dave moved out to port townsend 5 1/2 or so years ago, after she had travelled with me to artfest one early april; by august they were settled into a new life there on the west coast. misty and i stayed in a beautiful little artist cottage just down the road from their house for two years, and it will seem awfully odd for kathy to be absent when i head out there next month.
they've moved back to the north carolina mountains, this time settling in asheville, and aspen and i drove over yesterday for a lovely lunch and play time with PMC (precious metal clay). kathy was my teacher, so many years ago, sitting beside me at the very same table in their little log cabin to show me the skills that she knew. and there i sat again yesterday, at that very familiar table, the two of us quietly talking and laughing and creating while aspen snoozed on the hardwood floor at kathy's side.
so many years, so many miles, and still we come back to the solid place of friendship, side by side, spirit with spirit, heart to heart. i thank her for that, and for faithfully continuing to embrace me in her orderly, art-filled, beautiful life.
finally, i wanted to mention a new retreat out on the other side of the country, up in the redwood filled forests and mountains of northern california. lots of you are familiar with the lovely cindy o'leary, through her hard work with art and soul for many years. cindy will now be hosting and organizing An Artful Journey, a venue to be held several times a year. the location is spectacular, promises to be both peaceful and stimulating at once, and i love the fact that it is a smaller size, with three day workshops (my favorite!). i'll be teaching there in february next year, but there are other wonderful line ups scheduled before then. be sure to check it out.
many of you have inquired about art and soul/portland; i made a tough choice to decline teaching there this year, and will be spending this fall - don't hold me to this! - working on the beginnings of a book. this will be my first time not teaching at the portland venue - how many years now has it been, all the way back to the beginning - and it was a long and studied decision; i will certainly consider teaching there again next year. xo