"I know you have had some difficulties this year, and maybe some self doubt, and all that comes with living. It's almost Thanksgiving, and it's the time of year I try really hard to tell people thanks for helping/loving/inspiring me, and I want you to know how much you mean to me through your blog. I love your photographs and gentle words, and well, just, thank you. I look at the faces of the people who are holding and wearing the products of their class with you. There is pride, happiness, shyness, glee in some instances. I think you must be pretty powerful to help people find those things in themselves. I admire that, and want to be able to bring that to others too. I agree with Janet Roell's post above, "Thanks for being so generous with what you know and who you are." It says it all."
"Stories are light. Light is precious in a world so dark...Tell a story... make some light." from the book, The Tale of Despereaux. We have had rain here in Wisconsin, more than we are used to. There is something magical about how after such gray, I love gray, when the light lays long on the table and shows us what was always there we smile so wide. I, being a light lover and seeker, stand for this post and bow my little head. Thanks dear one. Blessings.
"dearest nina-I was at squam both this year and last and although our paths never quite crossed, one of my favorite memories was from this past Sunday morning; breakfast was over, we were all saying our goodbyes and you were getting into a car, preparing to leave. Someone called out "Good-bye Nina!" and you popped back out of the car and blew kisses in our direction, calling back to us "I love you all!" My heart broke so deeply for you when I read of what was waiting for you when you returned home... I have read your blog for a long time, always encouraged by your abilities to "overcome". Many times I have remembered your words and actions and have said to myself "Nina can do it... so can I". And now, in this time of hurt, you have once again given of yourself. "Forget the shattered shards and forge ahead". Nina, you are a gift to us all. love and hugs, gretchen"
"Ever since I was a child I would feel something was wrong, but unable to verbalize it, it just gets quashed and forgotten. Reading your words is so exciting and illuminating for me. It is exhilarating to read a description of yours and think, "a-ha, that's just what I've been feeling!" Or possibly it's not what I was feeling, but your way of describing something is freeing to the soul. The proverbial light bulb goes off because of YOU.
Since I've gotten into my 40's I now realize I need to explore these feelings that filter up every now and then, and reading your blog does help bring some of these things into clearer view for me. Seeing how you bring into focus both joy and sadness, helps me learn to do the same thing with my feelings. It's a little less like grabbing at straw after reading your blog. Thank you, Nina. :) You are a great teacher of many things, and for me it's illuminating emotions, putting them into words so they can be looked at, and studied a bit, and understood a little more."
When in doubt, make a fool of yourself. There is a microscopically thin line between being brilliantly creative and acting like the most gigantic idiot on earth. So what the hell, leap. ~ Cynthia Heimel
All growth is a leap in the dark, a spontaneous unpremeditated act without benefit of experience.
~ Henry Miller
Sometimes you just have to take the leap and build your wings on the way down. ~ Kobi Yamada
Sometimes your only available transportation is a leap of faith. ~ Margaret Shepard
Living is a form of not being sure, not knowing what next or how. The moment you know how, you begin to die a little. The artist never entirely knows. We guess. We may be wrong but we take leap after leap in the dark. ~ Agnes De Mille
And, of course, there's...
Leap, and the net will appear
Oh! Miss Nina! I was temporarily struck dumb at the ethereal beauty of this post. I am so nearly close to tears. You have the power to enrapture us with your words, letting them entwine our beings. Today I told my network group that Words Have Power {I, too, am fond of weaving words and quotes into my work}. And the snippets from Shakespeare tear through my heart like the stars shooting through the midnight sky. But the words that mean the most to me of yours seem so vastly out of reach with my own experience and that is why my eyes brim over at the thought...you most certainly do have the best job in the world, my dear....and although I don't, I can't {oh how I long for it!}...I can but dream {and plot and plan}. You so eloquently bring that dream {for us all} to life. And if one can make it happen perhaps that is the hope perching on my shoulder, goading me on. I am ever so glad that you do what you do and especially that you dare to bare your soul and your art for all of us to witness. Truly uplifting and inspiring.
"I was directed to your blog as I too just lost my beloved dog companion. I echo your words and feelings of loss and in the amazing consolation of strangers in the blog world. We do what we have to do in this life, right or wrong. I was with my dog when he died and watched his life leave his eyes. He was at that moment alone by my side in a natural moment of his life. We are left never really alone although very conscious of the empty spaces that can never be filled with anything but sweet memory."
"Nina,
Someone may have already sent this to you. Last year around this time our Sasha almost 15 left us - the evening skies of the day she left we saw a shooting star - we all knew it was Sasha letting us know all was well & it was her time to be free! Tears come even now as I write this. Someone sent me this poem which helped through the morning so I pass it on to you. Asilomar - a magical place to spend time and heal your soul.
blessings of love,
Robin
Rainbow Bridge
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
Author unknown... "
I have started this note so many times and then for whatever reason, never hit
the "send" but this morning after running your blog - I just sit here feeling
"ah" and just so loving the visit that I just had to let you know what your blog
( you) mean to me.
I start my morning out with coffee mug in hand and head to my little room that I
like to call "my studio" and there I write morning pages, and then do some work
in my art journal - then I'm awake enough to visit with you.
Finding your blog and meeting you has meant so much to me. I always leave filled
to the brim with happiness, inspired and a deep appreciation. I wish I could
find the words, like you do, to express what I feel. I feel in my heart I have
met a kindred spirit and friend.
I just had to let you know what visiting with you means to me, and this morning
I would be happy just walking in your yard...
Enjoy your day, give Aspen a pat for me, and now I will have a much better day,
knowing that I have spoken to you. Thank you for being there.....
"I check in on your lovely blog as often as I can, but did not expect the heartfelt connection I found today. My oldest daughter has not left yet, but as she prepares to go off to college next year, I feel the panic, sadness, gut wrenching turmoil in the pit of my stomach and painful heartache of the thought of her leaving. I am at the same time so proud of her - her accomplishments and the person she is becoming. I am excited and feel anxious with anticipation of who she will become once out there flying with her own wings and navigating her own course. I sobbed and sobbed as I read your words, tears just flowed down my cheeks (at work!) Thank you for sharing so purely. I felt your words penetrate my heart. I am encouraged that you and others have gone through it, are surviving, still have so much beauty and love within, and are sharing that love and beauty with others. Thank you so much."
"I completely agree with you about the allure of words on jewelry. I don't know of anyone who creates more beautiful objects that epitomize this concept. I come back to your blog day after day knowing I will see something amazingly beautiful. Thank you so much for bringing so much beauty into our world."
"I'm wearing these [cloud song] earrings today. I usually don't dress that creatively for work, more prosaically, with simple non-danglies. So I just discovered I can see them in my peripheral vision as I walk. I like that. I should wear more danglies. Life lately has been too much practicality: forms to fill out, official documents to decipher, task lists to update, errands to run, get a Plan B, Plan C, even a Plan D. ... These are challenging times indeed. I'm hoping to carve out a few hours this weekend at my studio table, playing with my collections. I haven't even had many moments lately to peruse your lovely Web site and drink in its charm. But when I do dip in, I always emerge refreshed. So this is just to say thanks ever so much for being there. You have no idea of how many lives you brighten!"
"Dear Nina- Upon seeing your work in Somerset (blog issue), and reading your words (I envy your poetic verbage & expression), I soon went to your blog and became a fan. When time allows (or is stolen by me), I often return there because I passionately admire your artistic style and feel as though I have taken a delightful journey into an enchanting, charming, ethereal world familiar from my childhood after reading your entries which are so beautifully enhanced with your photography. You should know that you are a giver. We come away with gifts from time spent with you. After reading your glowing affirmations about your sister Ellen's eggs, the third time I visited her Etsy shop I decided I must have one of the robin's eggs, I just MUST, so I ordered one - and a good thing too, for it was the last one. They put me in touch with the past when I was a little girl, entering into deep places that the soft, sky-blue beauty of a found robin's egg could draw me to. Nature displays the holy beauty of God if we will just take the time to perceive it and touch it. I, too, am a woman in her 50s who also has two grown sons -- and I also love and live in the "woods" (well, if you can call 2-3 acres of wooded land in the country "The Woods"). I loved reading about your father, your mother, your visit back home with them, and your love for your sister Ellen. I hope that you will share about your sons in future postings. And pleeeeeease don't think we will ever tire of seeing and hearing about the dog! LOVE that dog! After omitting paragraphs for the sake of saving space in this entry, I will close with trying to convince you that your heart, your art, your photography, your words, your openness and all that you share with the world is a worthy gift to us. You are a beautiful person, and I thank you."
"i am not an artist such as you, but i have been a student in one of your classes. you have the abillity to inspire and motivate because you let it be fun; because you make it look easy; because there really is no right or wrong, good or bad; because you allow us to feel and respond based on our own individual experiences... what you're really teaching is how to step outside the box and be comfortable there; how to use the skills you've taught us and apply them to what we want to do. i see it as much the same as when teachers teach writing skills...we teach the skill; the process...but each individual chooses his or her own words. i guess what i'm trying to say is that one of the first lessons i learned from you was that art is based on your own individuality...we begin with a blank canvas, so to speak, and with each experience and personal preference, the art is born. it may change, but the root of it remains the same. it's ok for you to be a part of that, but the bulk of what each person's art is depends on what's inside of them. it's ok for us to use the skills and the process, i think, but we have to put our own words to it...use our own canvas...have our own style of expression. i suppose it is sad when one who calls themself an artist has to rely on the ideas and style of others rather than what's inside of them. that tells me there is fear inside and they haven't yet learned what you teach...that it's ok to step outside the box and let your own art speak for what's inside you. you do that masterfully...you show us, through what you do, an outside expression of what is inside of you...and no one else has what is inside of you."
"I have spent the past two evenings reading your blog. Just felt like I wanted to talk to you for a moment. I so enjoyed my time in your world which you share so sweetly. Although I am not nearly as positive, open, kind and loving as you are, I do feel a definite comradeship in your love of solitude, nature and reflection. Although I get somewhat nauseated by some of the overly sweet, la-la, life is great type blogs, your positivity and sweetness are very endearing - and your frankness about the sad things is touching. I got as far as your October time with your folks and your comment about wondering why you share these things about your daddy...and I just wanted to send you a hug. Virtual hug from a stranger who wants to thank you for that sharing and try to take away some of that pain. And another big virtual hug for your precious puppy.
Also love your art. Have seen your things in some of my magazines and books which is where I found your site a long time ago but never went in to read. I piddle around with altered books, jewelry and other such things - that artistic outlet is the best part of my life. And the only time I am ever REALLY happy and at peace with my life is when I am outside, in nature, talking to trees and birds. My best conversations and relationships are with trees...and dead poets, too."
"quietly she tinkers.
indeed.
but the song of her tinkering ways
is clear and pure
and resonates...loudly,
deeply
and surely it hovers by hope
perching there
in the soul.
beautiful.
your work is, too..."
"oh i do love white camellias
such pure white against those magnificent
shiny leaves
love is pure like that
the love of years
in your fathers hands
such tender photos
you are so lucky to have the presence of
mind to capture these moments as they unfold
and then you share
thank you so much
for the time you take with us out here
i know there is an interconnectedness
between us all
you continually prove it"
"I am proud of you for protecting your integrity. You will find better
venues. People will come to you. You have to always
take care of yourself--your psyche is important. Not to be violated.
I know that you did the right thing. It had to be difficult, but it
was an important forward moving change that will serve you well."
"may all truth and love reside within you and become an invisible blanket of protection when any negativity tries to enter your church of kindness"
"I think you have almost reached the Third Noble Truth of Buddhism; cultivating a mind so spacious that you are going beyond what things seem to be into what you truly see. When you care about things, you see with a responsive and involved eye. Do you know how little you have struggled this week? I can see this in the eye of your camera.
Why is it that people are bored when rain becomes a mirror to see into and words in books shimmer?"
"Nina, I always read your blog as it seems a good way to hear your voice and learn from you. I wanted to tell you that your photos are as stunningly beautiful as your jewelry and your words. You have the true eye of an artist."
"For me visiting your blog is like going to a friend's house for a cup of tea and conversation- I've seen her driveway, house, foyer, kitchen, face so often but in all of that is love, friendship, and inspiration. Its about you! It is a virtual cup of tea with a friend."
"Congratulations on this momentous occasion in your country's history. This change that has occurred in the minds of your people is noted around the world. The greatest men in your history had the qualities that this man has ~ his mysticism, charisma, stillness, and idealisim is what I personally see. He makes me believe in his sincerity. With a positive outlook, unified effort, and shared vision you can do anything as a people. It is these American qualities that allow each of you to do good, to do the right thing, ~ and what makes you a great nation ~ not a win-at-all-costs mentality, not power held over weaker nations, not greed or arrogance, but strength in unity and a common dream."
"You really made me reflect on my life. I don't want to disappear either, and I often wonder why I was put on this earth. Am I just here to take up space for awhile?? There has to be more that this! Of course with my Baptist upbringing....I don't worry about when my life is over, but what about this one chance that I have.......I don't think that I will age gracefully, I am sure that I will fight it to the end. I have too many things that I want to do.... I still have a long list of places that I want to travel to. How I wish I hadn't wasted so many precious moments. Do you think that we ever have enough time during our life......I wanted to see our children grow, get married, and have a family....but now I want to see my grandchildren grow up and I wonder what they will do with their lives....will I ever have enough time ????Thank you for making me rethink what I will do with the rest of my life.....
Nina, I also want to thank you so much for your sharing your teaching talent with me, please don't ever quit teaching. I loved your class, and could hardly wait to get home so that I can start something else. I know that I wasn't very productive in your class, not your fault.....I just get so overstimulated, I need to ponder what to do next. When my husband was driving us home ( it's about 16 hours) I was rethinking my necklace and I found a wonderful piece of sliced jade. I am going to rework this piece, it needs to reflect what I learned from you.....after all this is what I will leave behind so that my children and grandchildren can remember me, I don't want to disappear!!!"
"Most people have a hard time seeing the blessings in what is right next to them, the grass is always greener syndrome. My father grew roses when I was growing up, so we always had bouquets of them in our house. To me they always seemed like a mundane thing--can you imagine, a rose, an everyday flower! Now that I am grown, moved away, now that my dad has died and the rose bushes are all gone do I understand the wonder of them. It is rare the person who appreciates the here, the now. That is why I love your blog so much. You are a constant reminder to me to appreciate what is all around me right now."
I have spent a very long time being professional and efficient, so my writing tends to say that which needs to be said in a very sparse way. I really enjoy that your writing reflects your heart and soul.
I hope it doesn't sound sycophantic to say that whilst some people don't really measure up when you meet them, that's not the case with you. I first did a class with you in Freemantle and then started reading your blog. The blog measures up to you!
I think leaving ourselves open to new ideas, nature and people also leaves us vulnerable and open to self doubt at times. The good thing is that it doesn't take much to give us a shot in the arm, so we can bounce back.
"i'm turning forty in six months, which is kind of a shock to me. i am looking at your poetic, beautiful jewelry and reading your inspiring, thoughtful posts and screwing up my courage to step into my power to do all that i want to do.
this email is to tell you hello, and to let you know that you are 100% right to tell your blog audience what is right and what is wrong regardless of their reaction. there will always be small, mean people who will attack you no matter what. it is hard to callous yourself to them, but please try. know that there are people who appreciate you and your art. you are a very special person and you deserve all the joy and respect in the world."
"I love your blog, your jewelry, and how you write about your reality. Not just fluff. You let us "see" you, and that makes us feel like we live next door. Thank you.. xo"
"you and the way you view the world is what i have felt we have lost...the ritual, the story telling around the fire/at the dinner table/on the front porch, being in the wild, honoring the past (and present)...i think if we all took it to a deeper level than the surface we stay on so often, we would see what attracts us all to you and each other is not your art (although that is precious)...it is our Souls wanting to talk...thanks for listening to me!!"
human beings are members of a whole
in creation of one Essence and Soul -
If one member is afflicted with pain,
Other members uneasy will remain -
If you have no sympathy for human pain
The name of human you cannot retain --Saadi
-it would be more helpful if we sat with our reactions when others are speaking their truth in their personal journals and simply listen with compassion...i have learned a lesson from all of this...thank you Nina for being honest with your pain...it serves those of us who want to be better humans...xo
i just wanted to tell you how much you inspire me to be a better person. every day when i read your blog, i think, oh, i am going to be more like that: more observant, more loving, more 'living with my eyes wide open', more crafted in my writing. and while i still feel like i am mostly not achieving that, i know that if i keep reading and being inspired, it will slowly seep into me. so thank you.
from accomplished artist Judy Wise (thank you judy xo): "IMO you and Teesha pioneered
the "look" of the mixed media/journal/collage thing that is strongly
influencing advertising, graphic arts, and fine arts in this country,
providing jobs for many teachers of art and enriching the lives of
housewives and square pegs. I thought of this when Rauchenberg passed;
he was a "real person" just as yourself who had a huge influence on the
culture.
I know you have had your heart broken at times by the copiers but there
is another side to it. Original good ideas will always find their way
into the culture through co-option and adaptation (and stealing). Think
about it."
from Belgium: "While I'm mailing you now, I want to say that I admire your work a lot. I discovered you in "true colors" and through some articles in the magazines of Stampington.
I love the "Nina-knot" and your work is really recognizable and an own style. But I guess I'm not the only one who told you this...."
"Coming here is like going back home and visiting with loved ones-those who take us as we are-vulnerabilites, faults and all. Words leave you effortlessly and enter us for what they are-honest, unpretentious, alive, and vulnerable. The end result is for us like savoring our mother's favorite dish after being sick-we feel comforted, understood, cared for."
"your jewelry is turning into a divine light...."
"It is wonderful to share the ineffable qualities that arise from the experiences of one who has walked from the outer periphery of this beautiful life straight to the center, the pulsing heart of existence."
BEAUTIFUL...just beautiful. This art leaves me breathless. When I first read of an "alchemist", as a child, I was aching to meet one and converse and watch the magic happen. And now I have, Nina. Your work is extraordinary."
People forget, or refuse to acknowledge, that this is your heart and your home you are sharing and that good manners must apply. I'm sorry that someone felt the need to take their politics out on you. Even between close friends, the time for that "discussion" would have been before you got Walter, not after. Bless Ben for telling you to brush it off. Don't let it steal your joy.
xxxxx
Posted by: Cindy Ericsson | July 09, 2009 at 02:20 PM
sucks boo to those who feel the need to pour venom on anyone let alone someone as generous hearted as you obviously are. Hurrah that you have such wonderful things in your life and that you continue to celebrate life and love through everything. For every one of those who feel venom inside themselves there are a million more who send love and good thoughts your way. So there!!!
Posted by: whitney-anne | July 09, 2009 at 02:22 PM
"shut this thing down" you say....as hard as it is for me to say it: do what you must. personally, i would be disappointed at the very least...BUT...the book?...oh yes, bring it on! if you look at all the good that's come of this wonderful place called "ornamental" and weigh that against the one or two bad apples that get in the bunch every so often......if you just throw out that one bad apple before it contaminates everything around it, then you and the rest of us who wish to be well-seasoned with your insights and gifts will be all the happier for it. pity the person who has too much time on their hands, for then they have nothing to do but find the faults in others. keep dancing, nina b...the music's still playing! ;) xo
Posted by: Tina in McLeansville | July 09, 2009 at 02:24 PM
sweet jesus,you know what shame on her, its none of her business, me of all people always has an opinion especially when it comes to dogs(having 8dogs ourselves and soon to be 2kittens and an adult cat)..all rescues...you took that sweet pup into your heart, it doesnt matter how he got there..perhaps she should put her energies into something useful....maybe volunteer at a shelter....xox.xox
Posted by: kim | July 09, 2009 at 02:30 PM
My mother always said - and still says: "Consider the source". Those words have helped me find perspective throughout my life... it is one thing when thoughts come from someone near and dear to you, although those are always lovingly delivered. But from a stranger? An acquaintance? I agree with Ben - this reader has no claim on you.
As I am once removed from the situation - I feel saddened and simultaneously thankful. Saddened that a life is so negative - that those type of feelings are what he/she has to share with the world. Thankful that I see the universal truth in giving what you wish to get, in offering up to the cosmos what you wish for in return. You, Nina, offer us the best of you - which is simply you! And I hope the best rains down on you to wash away this unpleasant stain.
Posted by: Jenny | July 09, 2009 at 02:31 PM
I've only recently discovered your blog but immediately realised that here I've found somewhere that by reading your words my own heart is lightened, my own load is loosened. You are so obviously a very special person, I feel sad for you that you've had to read vindictive comments that are totally unjustified. At six weeks a puppy is weaned and ready to leave it's mother, of course it will cry, as will an older puppy that has left the only world it's known. Not all puppies have the luck to be taken by someone like you, with the knowledge and love to provide for them. Think no more of the cruel, small minded person who has chosen to punish you with their words - you have done nothing wrong, far from it. Your love for Walter shines out.
I wish you much peace and happiness with your friend from the past, I've long been seeking for a friend from my past and hope that some day what has happended to you will happen to me too. Thankyou for sharing your words with us, you're an inspiration, and so uplifting.
Jan
Posted by: Jan | July 09, 2009 at 02:31 PM
oh you've done it again. i take a vacation only to come back and discover that you have someone new in your life again! Last time it was walter, now ben. you are one lucky woman.
your words are so deep and touch me in such ways that i cannot express them. please don't stop ornamental! i love reading your thoughtful, kind, nurturing, quiet, beautiful thoughts.
Posted by: NotSoccer Mom | July 09, 2009 at 02:43 PM
It is obvious from your writings that you are a sensitive person and perhaps less able to just brush aside nasty, hurtful comments than someone with more hide. Listen to Ben, listen to the other commenters. Most of us let people we DO know influence us but life is too short to let people we DON'T know have any influence whatsoever on our feelings or our lives.
Take it with a grain....salt, sand, etc.
Posted by: Susan S. | July 09, 2009 at 02:56 PM
Maybe she was having a bad day. It's a shame she decided to pass it on.
She must not have learned that you need to walk a mile in someone's shoes before judging them.
We are all just people trying to live a life that we think is good.
Yes, write that book.
Posted by: Binky Bergsman | July 09, 2009 at 02:56 PM
I love your writing - your open heart - it stirs such emotion in me - I have no idea why - I do not know you - but your writing moves me. You are such an inspiration. I am so glad you are loving this moment in your life right now. enjoy.every.minute.
Posted by: Stacey | July 09, 2009 at 03:04 PM
OMG Nina, this kinda makes me a little sick.
There's always a pot- stir-er...it seems.
ANd...i have decided that they are just ones who really don't have a full enough rich enough life...so they have to stir a pot somewhere... just carry on!
we're not out here for approval , just to come visit...and of course.HIGH five little walter! xo
Posted by: connie | July 09, 2009 at 03:11 PM
I am so sorry for you but know you will be ok, you have too many wonderful things in your life to let a poison pen ruin things. She must be a very miserable and unhappy person to want to hurt someone else so very much. One can only feel sorry for someone who hurts that much. I would miss your blog very much if you decided to "shut it down". Your post may help you but they help me also and I learn more about myself and life through the words that you write. Thank you for being there.
Posted by: lilylovekin | July 09, 2009 at 03:17 PM
Oh, Dear Nina. As bright as your light shines, there must needs be a shadow now and then. this is a shadow person who claims the need to punish joy and love. For every ray of light in your blessed soul this one feels nothing but darkness and needs to call out darkness when she can.
Let her crawl back to her shadows and try to understand and love light enough to claim it rather than punish it.
I am sure Walter is joyful in your arms as you carry him down the steps to new adventures.I am doubly sure the two of you belong together as you are. Listen to your mystery man. Listen to the songs of love around you. Let the sour note fall flat.
Posted by: Kathleen Barnes | July 09, 2009 at 03:17 PM
Oh Nina, how sorry I am to hear of this woman's wanting manners. You lay yourself so wide open here, but really, no one has the right to judge you and your doings, just because they visit your blog. Would that they would behave like visitors!
Leave it behind you; listen to Ben.
Please don't forget to greet the fireflies from me!
Posted by: Renate | July 09, 2009 at 03:18 PM
this is incomprehensible to me. Ummm ... if i read this write (oops, spelling error, but i think i'll leave it:)the person is unknown to you? someone decided they COULD pour venom down your throat, but COULD NOT leave their name? if i'm understanding this correctly, if they can't own up to their words and thoughts, that says it all in my book.
Posted by: Barbara | July 09, 2009 at 03:19 PM
oh my...makes me think of that new song...God is Great...Beer is Good...People are Crazy! lol...I'm so happy for you Nina and Ben and there is nothing better in this world than "a soft place to fall everynight". I've always told my family and my friends that the best part of my day is...laying down next to my darling husband every night and then waking up to him every morning...we never take each other for granted.
Strangers and family alike can say mean, hateful things and it's usually because they are hurting themselves. They love it when they find any "imagined" fault you may have...you know the saying...misery loves company.
I know that it's still "raw" right now but I hope that this doesn't stop you from being real and truthful on your blog posts. You are a very brave and strong woman who has a warm, open, loving heart and lots to give. Remember...this too shall pass! So don't let the ignorance and stupidy of this one individual pull you down with them...another of my "favorite" sayings...Opinions are like ass_ _ _ _ s and I don't need yours in my face right now!
love ya NINA...fondly, Roberta
Posted by: Roberta | July 09, 2009 at 03:20 PM
Nina, I lurk here every day. I loved taking your class at Art&Soul back in 05 (in virginia, the cookbook journal, I was the one sitting with terry berg) and I love reading your heartfelt posts. And now I HAVE to tell you something I believe in. Karma. What goes around comes around. Those who feel the need to criticize and demean those they do not know will, I am sure, be hurt badly by someone they do not know; maybe soon, maybe down the road a bit, but it will come. It is karma. Life gives us back what we give to others. Take heart; the mean-spirited people only teach us how lovely most other people are! Hugs to you and Walter. And a wee hug to Ben too, and words of thanks to him for being there for you with wisdom and kindness and adoration.
Posted by: Lennie | July 09, 2009 at 03:25 PM
Nina, this just pisses me off. I just HATE when some know-it-all, talk-a-lot type tries to 'punish' another person by sending in their two cents because they feel its their duty. I get that the world is full of orphans and i do my best to help out, but I choose who to open my home to. I bought my shiba inu from a breeder and got some heat (apparently they were unaware that the breed has been seriously diminished over the past 50 years) so in a way, I was helping. My company donates to several animal charities every year, so i don't feel like I have to keep every stray that wanders down the street. What surprises me is that the dumbass took the time to write and send the letter, probably without signing it, in the first place. Who does this? I'm bothering now, because you're a buddy and I feel like knocking down that pompous dummy! Well, I think getting your dog from a breeder is fine. Its nice to adopt from a shelter, but its also nice to get a pet that you know you'll get along with. Some breeds are better for some than others. Perhaps you should have a disclaimer that states you are uninterested in negative opinions and that they should tell someone who cares (not you). Ok, Nina, you know we are more than willing to cheer you up, or to send annoying messages back to the offender! Have a great day, we'll make some bacon caramels if you want to hang out. cynthia
Posted by: cynthia | July 09, 2009 at 03:35 PM
Oh my Nina, There are those in the world that just HAVE TO speak their piece, even if it hurts someone. I know we all have experienced it, but why do it have to go on? Listen to those that know you and love you for who and what you are, and continue to keep your beautiful heart open. Blessing to you.
Emanda
Posted by: Emanda | July 09, 2009 at 03:44 PM
Dear, lovely Nina, “Some people read blogs only with a view to find fault, while others read only to be taught; the former are like venomous spiders, extracting a poisonous quality, where the latter, like the bees, sip out a sweet and profitable juice” (L. Estrange..adapted)
Just let that awful woman crawl back to her lair and, as Emanda says, please "keep your beautiful heart open"
I, for one, can't manage without you.
luv n'hugs
Posted by: Tina | July 09, 2009 at 03:57 PM
Keep on dancing by the light of that glorious moon, and by the light of your own magical soul. I am honored that you allow me (us) to watch, even if it is just for a moment or two of the dance.
Blessing and hugs !
Posted by: kim mailhot | July 09, 2009 at 03:59 PM
She knew how this would wilt you. Thats the really despicable thing about it. And didn't even have the courage to shout out her name. nope, did it hiding behind a ole dead tree. . You brought a puppy to a haven with the blessings of the breeder. Pshaw on her. Don't give her any more power, just brush her away and keep on shining.
xx
julie
Posted by: Julie Whitmore | July 09, 2009 at 04:04 PM
Oh dear Nina, a warm generous soul such as yourself certainly doesn't deserve a letter like this. Brush away the mosquitos and continue to bask in your new found happiness. It's contagious! And just look at that darling little face of a pup that is so obviously loved.
Yes, yes to the book....no,no to closing ornamental.
Posted by: Robyn | July 09, 2009 at 04:13 PM
A wise and wonderful teacher told me "it's none of your business what other people think of you". I LOVE that shit! Freedom!
Posted by: Susan S | July 09, 2009 at 04:19 PM
I could never understand why some people spend so much energy shawdowing the light of others instead of cultivating a light of their own.
You my dear are free to express as you wish, after all this is your home and just because your door is open it doesn't mean anyone can come in with hurtful intent. I hope you never shut this place of honesty out. Instead, why don't you start that book of yours and turn this bad experience in something really worth while. There is no better way to neutralize evil that to transform it into something positive.
xoxoxo
Isabel
Posted by: Isabel | July 09, 2009 at 04:19 PM
I think that part of the problem with the internet is that people think it allows them to say whatever they like and they do not have to look you in the eye to do it. Only you could choose how soon you wanted to get a new dog- clearly Aspen was more than a pet to you and very heartbreaking to lose. Seems to me Walter is doing just fine and that he is lucky to have been adopted by a woman that will show him more love than he could ever imagine. Breeder or rescue is your choice, and if someone does not agree with it, it does not give them the right to condemn your decision or berate you. I hope that you are able to write these words of disappointment and hurt here and then wash the comments out of your life and your soul. There will always be people that want to bring us down and hurt us. We need to choose not to let them do that to us. I adore that you share yourself with the world and I hope that you continue to. You help to make the world magical- if only there were many, many more like you :)
Posted by: kim | July 09, 2009 at 04:22 PM
Although the words were hurtful and ugly, here's hoping that they are quickly replaced by the beautiful words of your Ben and the sweet sounds of your Walter.
XO Karen
Posted by: Karen Cannon | July 09, 2009 at 04:25 PM
Dear sweet Nina, you open your heart & honestly share what's within with anyone who happens by & what a privilege it is to discover your 'little room'. Each visitor has a choice, to stay or to leave if what they discover isn't to their liking. But to stay & then act with such disrespect -- the height of bad manners! And THAT is the shocking thing. To wait 3 weeks AFTER you'be brought Walter home...
When people react so negatively, to me it seems to be nothing more than jealousy. Maybe this person did have doubts about Walter coming to you so young but time & love has proved that his age didn't matter & he's thriving with you & you with him. Maybe a similar situation didn't work for this person & instead of rejoicing in the positivity of it all, has decided to wallow in a shallow pool of negativity.
Ben is so so right -- yaay Ben!! Just brush them away & get on with your wonderful, magical life. Like a friend once told me, don't let the turkeys get you down!
Joy xxx
Posted by: Joy | July 09, 2009 at 04:26 PM
Never let the mean people get you down. I so relate to you -- I too have crippling insecurities and sometimes feel like closing down. But you, Nina, have reached out to us all and it's so beautiful what you create and what you share. Keep on going, and know you're appreciated out here. I'm so glad for you that there's Ben and Walter. Thanks for being who you are.
Posted by: Margaret | July 09, 2009 at 04:27 PM
Good god - she needs to get a bleedin' life.
So so sorry this hateful person decided to spew at you. I say burn the letter and send the molecules out into the world to be transformed.
smooches dear friend.
Posted by: kathy vk | July 09, 2009 at 04:30 PM
Shame on her! Our lives have no time for such negativity. Ignore her (him?). Your life is beautiful. Remember that.
Posted by: martha brown | July 09, 2009 at 04:34 PM
Walter is going to spend the rest of his life being loved and protected. He'll be fed and he'll be sheltered from the cold. He'll sleep in a warm bed beside someone who will give him the best life. Who could possibly want anything more for this beautiful little puppy....
Posted by: Gina Cuff | July 09, 2009 at 04:39 PM
Water off a duck's back, Nina! Hang in there and remember those words are just gonna flow right off your skin, and never sink in. BTW, I am in love with Walter! He is just one of the cutest puppies ever.
Posted by: Teresa Raines | July 09, 2009 at 04:41 PM
Isn't it sad.
Sad that for some people, their only joy is to try and spoil someone else's.
Ben sounds sensible.Listen to him.
Ignore her.
Don't let her spoil one tiny part of a second of all the good things that have happened and will go on happening.
nicki x
Posted by: Nicki | July 09, 2009 at 04:42 PM
Dearest Nina, how true that some people lash out on the internet because of its anonymity. They are cruel and they are fools. Your bright light brings such joy and hope to those of us who feel as deeply but do not have the talent to pour forth our longings through our words. Yes, yes yes to the book.....no, no, no to shutting down ornamental!
Walter is adorable and has such an amazing new mother....he is one lucky little fellow. Ben is so right, brush it off and know how many of us are so truly and deeply touched by your spirit!
Posted by: Nilene | July 09, 2009 at 04:47 PM
Dear, dear Nina,
It hurts my heart that someone chose to pour their negativity on you. You who are so open, so loving, so willing to take risks and put yourself out there for all of us to see. She should be ashamed of sending you that letter; I feel sure that karma being what it is she will one day feel the negativity coming back at herself. Unless, of course, she is already in it. We always tell our daughter that other's negativity is their issue and not ours. I believe that is true. Her issue with your getting Walter from a breeder and at such a tender age is just that: her issue. I, too, have a beautiful four legged friend. I, too, got him from a breeder. I, too, got him before 8 weeks of age. And in hindsight, I would not change a thing. Pets and people come to us for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Walter came to you when he did because he was meant to be with you. I believe that and I have seen through your posts just how much his presence in your life has helped you to heal. Bless you for your honesty, your true heart and your wonderful blog.
Olwyn
p.s. You can write your blog AND write the book at the same time, you know!!!! hint...hint...hint...
Posted by: Olwyn Hughes | July 09, 2009 at 04:58 PM
In judging you, this person has, in truth, judged herself and found herself wanting. Only you can know what choices are right for you, so continue to be your own Very Authentic Nina and pay the nay-sayers as little mind as you can -- they are nothing but buzzing gnats, annoying but not harmful unless you permit. Give yourself a big hug, and then one for Walter, and one for Ben :-).
Posted by: Julia | July 09, 2009 at 04:59 PM
well i am learning that when people feel they must let you know how they feel just say "your opinion of me is none of my business!" i think Dr. Wayne Dwyer said that, I am not sure.
it is their karma after all don't make it yours! don't take on the pain and make it yours. sure it can hurt for awhile that will hurt them karmically (is that a word?) every negative thought is a negative to oneself not the opposite! please please don't let them drag you down! we who just love to follow would be missed and the ripple effect, you know?
Posted by: Janine | July 09, 2009 at 05:00 PM
oh btw, does she have any kids of her own that is? afterall, she could have helped the overpopulation by adopting, afterall! just kidding but i could not resist!
Posted by: Janine | July 09, 2009 at 05:02 PM
All I can say is Walter appears, in every sweet photo, to be doing very, very well. So, good job Nina! Keep at it! :)
Posted by: Erin | July 09, 2009 at 05:10 PM
Dear Nina,
You are giving so much of yourself here and in doing that to us the readers - don't give this very annoying "mosquito" the attention that she so clearly seeks. Put your hurt feelings into a vessel and bury it in the ground somewhere or bundle them up and offer them to the wind to be carried away.
Just listen to Ben, he's right:-)
Hugs from Oz,
Monika
Posted by: Monika Schmid | July 09, 2009 at 05:14 PM
The Buddhists talk about how we can feel compassion for others when we realize how much pain they must be in, when they do such painful things to us. What pain and darkness is in this person's life to make them feel it so necessary to reprimand you? Sometimes when we dwell in darkness, we strike out at the light. Keep being the best light that you can be, Nina. You can only be you!
Posted by: Judy Merrill-Smith | July 09, 2009 at 05:18 PM
Nina--I agree with so many of the sentiments that I am reading here and wish you only the best. I think that it is sad that people can only find negative in stuff. I wonder what THEIR blog deals with? Or, are they brave enough to bare their soul there and have OTHERS comment? I bet they wouldn't be getting many positive comments if all they have in their heart is poison. I agree: consider the source and hit the "delete" button and just don't publish. There are too many of us who DO appreciate you and need you and want to be part of your world, in whatever capacity we can. Heck, I'd volunteer for friend ANY time!! You're always welcome in MY house!!
Posted by: Teri Mahl | July 09, 2009 at 05:19 PM
Dear Nina,
One only has to look at your bright, smiling face to know the joy your 2 new male companions bring to you. As for this "person", if there is a next time, why not make her email public and let the rest of us who treasure you have a go at her?
I like that scenario and I bet others would too.
Nancy M.
Posted by: Nancy Moore | July 09, 2009 at 05:25 PM
Oh sweet, generous Nina. I haven't a clue what makes most people click when it comes to needing to judge another. Let alone be so mean spirited as to go out of their way to be hurtful. I am truly sorry this has happened to you. I, one of many I am sure, would be very saddened to have you disappear, never to share your world view with us again. It is a brave and generous gift you give us. Thank you.
Posted by: LeAnn | July 09, 2009 at 05:28 PM
So sad, so shameful, and where do these people come from, and let us ask Walter just what HE thinks of such mean remarks. Oddly enough, although not really, it seems to work this way quite often, you have touched on a subject I've been mulling over lately - that of showing the world my heart (and I am not yet as brave as you) & finally reached the same conclusion. It's for me & I am nothing but delighted if others like it/me, but the real truth is it's for me. Discovering this truth has allowed me to at last take a few days away from my little spot on the internet, understanding that if no one is there when I return, it matters not (well, it does matter - I have to be truthful, but I will survive - lol!). I come here for the reasons you stated, to hear the truth of your life & your heart.
Posted by: debi | July 09, 2009 at 05:29 PM
You are a giving and beautiful soul full of light, unfortunately, there are those souls who are full of darkness and feel compelled to destroy anything of beauty through jealousy, spite, ignorance, or just plain meanness.
Your wise Ben is correct-brush this off as you would brush off a mosquito and keep on doing what you love! The greatest gift of all is sharing your soul with the world, please, please do not stop.
Posted by: Sharon | July 09, 2009 at 05:53 PM
Girlfriend
Who gives a rats ass what someone as bitter and twisted as this anonymous letter writer thinks of you. She obviously has no balls or she would have signed her name, coward. I for one love reading your blog. I check in every day to see if you have left something for us fans. I am disappointed when there is nothing new.
Girl, keep on doing what you are doing, and if anyone out there does not like what you have to say then they should just refrain from logging onto your site, easy peasy as we say in Scotland.
Have a good one
Fay
Posted by: fay | July 09, 2009 at 05:59 PM
oh nina!
i have been so happy to read of your sweet walter and now ben, to share and relish life with!
blessings to you - and as much as you can - brush away those inconsiderate words - and know we love you, are inspired by you, and look forward to the transparent sharings of your life - to inspire ours!!
thank you!!
full of love and admiration -lynn : )
Posted by: lynnk | July 09, 2009 at 06:03 PM
Nina,
Whoever this person is, they have never had the honor to have been loved from a four-legged baby. It doesn't matter where or when you adopted Walter, but that you did and he is loved, beyond measure. Please know that you brighten my heart everyday that you blog, you are a beautiful person. Thanks for writing and know that there are more positives than the one "bad apple"
Posted by: Lori MacKenzie | July 09, 2009 at 06:05 PM